Loneliness has a way of making the world feel quieter. When you move somewhere new, especially to a country where you don’t know anyone, it can feel like everyone already has their circles, their people, their places. And you’re just… there. On the outside.
But connection doesn’t always happen in big, obvious ways. Sometimes, it starts with the smallest things - small enough that you might not even realize they matter until they do.
The coffee shop where you start to recognize the regulars.
The neighbour who smiles at you every morning.
The bookstore clerk who chats with you about the novel you just picked up.
The person in your language class who struggles with the same words as you.
The coworker who mentions a weekend plan and, without thinking, you say, Oh, that sounds fun! and suddenly, you’re invited.
These moments seem fleeting, insignificant, but they aren’t. They are the tiny threads that, over time, weave into something real. Into familiarity. Into friendships.
If you’re trying to figure out how to find your people in a new place, here are a few places to start:
How to Build New Friendships When You Move Abroad
Join a Meetup or Interest Group
Whether it’s an expat gathering, a book club, or a hiking group, joining something that meets regularly gives you a chance to see the same faces over time—because connection isn’t just about meeting new people, it’s about seeing them again and again.
Take a Class
Pottery, yoga, dance, painting—whatever interests you, learning something new with others is an easy way to spark conversation without the pressure of networking.
Be a Regular Somewhere
Choose a café, a market, a park—somewhere you feel comfortable returning to. When people start recognizing you, it creates a subtle sense of belonging.
Volunteer
Giving back to the community is not only fulfilling, but it also connects you with people who share your values and want to make an impact.
Say Yes (Even When You Don’t Feel Like It)
Sometimes, we hesitate. We think, I won’t know anyone there. It might be awkward. And maybe it will be. But maybe, maybe, it will be the first step toward meeting someone who makes this new place feel a little more like home.
Friendship takes time. But it also takes openness. So keep showing up. Keep saying yes. And little by little, you’ll find your people.
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